Patience

Janet Jackson said she has control and lots of it. I wish I could say the same about my level of patience. I get impatient at traffic, traffic lights, the grocery store check out, fast food drive through lines and I could keep going. Why am I like that? I would love to know what my hurry is. I need to learn how to be more chill. This not only applies to my day-to-day activities but my life in general.

The saying goes "good things come to those that wait." Sometimes I would like to find the person that said that and tell them "fuck you." Since I don't know him or her, I will have to keep that to myself. We as a people seem to want what we want when we want it and get frustrated when we can't have our way. Yelling curses at drivers in traffic or internally cursing the guy in line at Starbucks for ordering the most complicated drink ever and wanting to have his whole bean coffee ground. Am I really in that big of a hurry to get my coffee? Probably not but I like quick service.

These things are rather trivial in the big scheme of my life. However, I seem to want to run this same hurry up offense when making friends. Again, I need to chill. Everyone may not be the type to immediately open up and ready to be my new best bud. That doesn't mean that person isn't interested in being friends, they may have had issues in the past that makes them cautious. I guess it is like test driving a car or trying on some new clothes. You have to get a feel for it to see if you are comfortable. A good friendship takes some time and trust to allow the persons involved to feel comfortable enough to share their fears, goals, shortcomings or whatever else that might feel like an embarrassment. A true friend will not judge or belittle someone for what they might or might not have done in the past.

I know I need to work on this. Some days are better than others but the waiting may keep me from getting burned by the coffee that is too hot.

Later people.