Relationships

Sorry I haven't posted in a while, holiday time is busy.  Today is Wendy's and my anniversary, we have been married for 11 years.  It has been an amazing 11 years (plus 6 years we knew each other before we were married.)  There have been ups and downs just like every marriage has, and we have worked through it all.  What pisses me off is to see celebrities treat marriage like it is a new shirt or car, once a slight hole appears in the shirt or the car needs some maintenance, it is time for a new one.  What the fuck?  These people have no idea what marriage is or how to work through one.  When two people are in love and commit to marriage, they exchange vows that are "to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part."  Being married for 2 weeks or 1 day is hardly keeping with these vows and maybe the two people should have waited a while to get married.


I don't want anyone reading this to think that I am saying every marriage should last forever.  There are some that just don't work out, either one of the people gets into it and after a few years, something changes and marriage doesn't feel like it used to.  Or, maybe one of the people doesn't go into the relationship honestly and ends up being completely different from when they first met.  Whatever the case may be, if the feeling is not mutual and after trying everything to see if changes can be made, the best option may be to end the marriage.  But at least try to work together and communicate with each other what the issue or concern is.  If both people truly love each other, then compromises can be made to get going back on track.  A person truly committed will decide what is important and what is silly to argue over.


In March, my parents will be married for 40 years.  I know that times were tough in the beginning, but they worked through it and did what they could for my sister and I.  It was only recently that I deeply realized what they did for us.  My father working outside for the phone company for 37 years.  My mother taking care of our home. Marriage isn't all glamour and being seen at the newest restaurant in town or having the biggest house.  It is about a commitment that two people make to share their lives together through good times and bad.  Some people in this world just don't get it.  Many conservative people out there say that allowing same sex marriages will weaken the institution of marriage.  Bullshit.  These celebrities and reality TV shows are taking care of that, not two guys or two women that are  committed to each other and wanting to share their love.


If you are reading this and you are married, I hope it is a happy marriage.  If there are problems, take a step back and evaluate what is most important.


Later people.